On yer bike! - Paula Manoli-Gray
It's a good time to be a cyclist in Larnaca!
I personally don't cycle myself due to not being confident with these kind of things, but I am certainly encouraged on behalf of those who do at how much progress has been made.
The island – and Larnaca – have always been favoured by cyclists from abroad as a place to train, as well as a fantastic destination to hold major cycling tournaments, thanks to our favourable weather and terrain, but locals didn't particularly take cycling seriously as a mode of transport in modern times.
Fast forward to today and in a short period of time, cycling has exploded; not just as a mode of transport or a hobby, but also in terms of conditions for cyclists. The municipality is doing much to encourage the environmentally-friendly mode of transport and is participating in European initiatives that highlight the benefits, and it should be applauded for its efforts. Furthermore, we now have organised cycling groups that meet regularly; many families go on weekend rides; people with cars actually opt to use bikes to get from A to B instead, and the network of cycle paths keeps growing and growing and growing.
So why oh why is it that I still find myself stuck behind cyclists on the road, who are riding parallel to the cycle paths? Is there something wrong with the paths or is it a case of 'careful what you wish for, it may come true'? Maybe it is just me, but I have driven past countless cyclists who are cycling on the road, right next to one of the nice new cycle paths – two or more abreast, and it does not endear them to me at all.
Cyclists have always moaned that motorists are oblivious to their right to use the road, or fail to acknowledge them, and in turn, motorists have found cyclists a nuisance – especially when they do ride two or more abreast and take up the whole road. So I think it is fair now to say that motorists should stick to the road and cyclists to the cycle paths… isn't it? Or am I missing something?
The only thing I can conclude is that maybe the cycle paths feel restrictive to cyclists, being that they are raised up like a pavement and narrow. I can only guess that maybe seasoned cyclists like to ride at a fair pace and feel unrestricted; therefore the road is a more attractive prospect?
If there are any cyclists out there who can enlighten me, I would be interested to hear their views – did the municipality get it wrong with the paths or are they just not used to using designated areas? Is it that they prefer the thrill of the road, or something more?
In the meantime, it is still fantastic to see more and more people embracing alternative means of transport and enjoying our lovely weather and scenery. It is also great to see that international-calibre cycling tournaments continue to take place in the region, putting us on the world cycling map.
As for me, if I ever have the courage to get on a bike, it's the safety and confinement of the red paths for me all the way… with training wheels on!
First appeared in The Cyprus Weekly, 24/04/15
Where is the Therapist Unity?
With the treatment jungle out there, it is hard to know what advice to take; what advice is useful and what advice is detrimental to your child's development. Everyone is an expert in their own field but not each others. Through conversations with other Special Needs mums and dads, I have found that many therapists heavily promote their own field of expertise, criticizing other therapies, even telling parents that other therapies are not necessary. Or the one that really infuriates me - diagnosing a child with something e.g. ADD, ASD or ADHD without going through the correct testing process, for example watching a child for 20 minutes and deciding they are ASD (this actually happened by the way). One parent even confided in me that her child was diagnosed with ASD by a well known psychologist/psychotherapist, who told her not to send her child to any therapies until he was 8 years old (but obviously to come to her once a week). Oh my God! I really wanted to go to this psychologist's office, turn into a banshee so that I could scream at her
HOW DARE YOU!!!
How dare you diagnose something you are not an expert in and not refer the child to someone who is! How dare you tell a mother not to take her child to therapy so that you can line your own pocket! How dare you delay the correct therapy and not allow a child to reach his full potential because you think you know everything, taking advantage of parents that are trying to process the news you have just broken to them!
Taking a short course in ASD (autism spectrum disorder) or ABA therapy (applied behaviour analysis) does not make you an expert. I mean does doing a first aid course qualify someone to work as a doctor in a hospital? Of course not! So parents please, if you want to truly diagnose your child, go to someone who specializes in Developmental and Behavior Pediatrics.
I admit, I am lucky. We have managed to find therapists who have gone out of their way to help our child, but more than that, they have been willing to work with the other therapists to help my son generalize his skills (as ASD children tend to acquire a skill with one therapist but do not know how to transfer that skill to other parts of their lives like school, home etc...). And this is thanks to our Developmental specialist who recommended we have a communication book that we pass around all our therapists and teachers (both in the morning at school and in the afternoon at his private therapies), Each person involved in his development has to write what they have done with him that lesson, his behaviour, the outcome, goals, etc... Then everyone else can read what he has been working on, adapt it and consolidate it in their lesson.
It has worked beautifully, allowing my son to feel confident and progress in leaps and bounds.
In October 2013, I attended an extremely interesting seminar about bridging the gap between ABA and Speech/Language therapy. She explained the main misconceptions these therapists have about each other and then the strengths and limitations of each. What I understood was that these 2 therapies were like pieces of a puzzle. The Language therapy part of the puzzle understood the anatomy/physiology of speech production, the challenges of motor speech disorders and the components of language, whereas the ABA therapy part of the puzzle had formal training in behaviour management strategies, specialized in autism and had expertise in instructional design. When these two pieces of the puzzle join together, learning and collaborating with each other, the benefits for the child are immense. In the UK and USA there are schools that incorporate all therapies under one roof on a daily basis, because they recognise that one therapy does not hold all the answers. But here....
So to all the therapists out there, please recognise your limitations (we won't judge you on them), leave your misconceptions at the door, and find your therapist unity...for all our children's sakes.
Time waits for no family!
I'm late! I'm late! How often do you hear this in society today, especially where family life is concerned? Why are we so stressed about time in the modern world? It seems that the more one focuses on time, the less time one has!
Everywhere I go at the moment, I’m constantly bumping into people who don’t have time; their words and not mine! No time to meet, no time to relax, no time to take time, with crazy claims like we are running out of time. How is this possible when many psychologists believe that time is actually a mind created illusion?
So let’s solve this time riddle once and for all in practical family terms. The first thing to understand is that man-invented time and it’s not something that naturally exists, except in our minds. In fact most people on planet earth today perceive time in Newtonian Physics terms. Sir Isaac suggested that time is like a river flowing uniformly forward. Where we are on the river right now is the present; where we are heading is the future and what we have left behind is the past. If you are nodding to this explanation, then we have a problem Houston, because this is a description of time, which is a 200+ years old out of date concept and proved wrong by Einstein’s theory of special relativity, whereby time is looped. Now this is a rabbit hole that I do not want to get further into, but if you want more information read the book “In search of time” by Dan Falk, who in my view has made the best contribution to explaining the complex history of time in simple terms. The only point you need to take out of this is that we perceive time wrongly and it’s a mind created perspective.
Solving the issue of family time management is not a matter of ABC systems, or being extremely efficient. In today’s world, regardless of how efficient (this leads to stress) you are, you will never be able to meet all your objectives, assuming you have a moderately active life. We are living in the age of information overload and all of our time saving devices actually generate more tasks.
The secret is to look at the big picture and to understand the importance of priorities. The Godfather of prioritization linked to time management is the “Pareto Principle”. Pareto was an Italian economist who studied real life in combination with the economy and through thousands of research papers he discovered a general rule, which states:
· There are a significant few activities from which we gain most value and results
· There are a trivial many activities from which we gain very little value or results
· The “significant few” take up 20% of our activities and time
· The “trivial many” take up 80% of our activities and time
Rigorously applying this principle to family life makes us think very carefully about what activities really matter! It is, therefore, important to identify the significant 20% of our activities or topics that make all the difference to our lives and to focus on them to bring about the best life changing results.
Here are some simple examples for guidance:
1. 20% of our daily activities bring us 80% of our joy
Identify what these activities are and pay more time and attention to them, while reducing the activities, which make little difference. Now apply a similar response to the remaining examples.
2. 20% of our friends give us 80% of our social happiness
3. 80% of our financial results comes from just 20% of our working activities
4. 80% of our daily stress comes from 20% of life’s potential triggers
To conclude, I urge all parents reading this article to reconsider what really matters most to your family and to devote more time to it. In parallel, try to spend less time on the activities, habits, customs and social conformities that bring you little value, because cramming too much unnecessary clutter into life dilutes the essence of the family experience.
Sharon Holmes
www.larnacaparentsnetwork.com
A broken record on a broken law - Paula Manoli-Gray
Here we go again! At the expense of sounding like a broken record, I am going to once again have a moan about the issue of illegal parking, and what is not being done about it.
I have bleated on about this in the past, but it has once again been brought to my attention due to a press release from the municipality that claims that they will come down hard on illegal parking along Phoinikoudes and Piale Pasha as from… now. They kindly gave the public the grace period of the Easter holidays to continue parking (unofficially) illegally, with the intention to now curb (pun intended) the practise of parking where you want, when you want, how you want.
I don't believe a word of it. As a broken record, I will recount once more how I have for many years watched in anger as traffic wardens select one or two illegally parked cars in a line of many, issue them a ticket, then drive off leaving the other tens of cars free to have parked illegally with no consequence. I will recount again that the majority of the time, it is red licence plate rental cars that have been on the receiving end of the fines. I will repeat myself for the thousandth time that the municipality could have been raking it in if they had either put metres on these spots or actually booked people consistently.
I don't personally know any traffic wardens, therefore I do not know if they work on commission, quotas or targets, but it doesn't seem that way judging by how many illegally parked cars they drive past. And instead of people fearing the wrath of a traffic warden's little ticket book, it seems as though the traffic wardens are actually afraid to book people. It goes something like this: traffic warden trying to do their job properly finds an indisputably illegally parked car. Traffic warden gets out little ticket book to write ticket when is suddenly pounced on by angry, indignant driver. Driver proceeds to shout and swear that they are only parked so they can enjoy a coffee for half an hour and can see their car from the café (which makes it okay for some strange reason), or that they just stopped to buy a pack of cigarettes, or that they are within their rights to park illegally for a certain time, or that the traffic warden is unfairly picking on them just because they parked illegally! Traffic warden either knows the individual (or their koumbaro) and allows them to drive off (without ticket), or warns them not to do it again and lets them drive off without ticket. Occasionally, they won't back down, or if the ticket has already been written then it is too late, but there are still a large percentage of potential tickets that are talked – or shouted – out of.
This is another one of those Cypriot chicken-egg scenarios; what breeds this behaviour – is it that the laws are so lax that people know there is no need to obey them, or is it because people are so defiant and refuse to obey laws that they cannot be implemented?
Either way, I will quite confidently bet that the next time I drive down Phoinikoudes or Piale Pasha I will find multiple cars parked infuriatingly illegally and not a traffic warden in sight, or that the game of selective ticketing will be in full swing. So, here we go again!
First appeared in The Cyprus Weekly newspaper, 17/04/15
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